WOMEN PERIODS IS NOT A CURSE. IT IS AN AWESOME GOD'S PROCESS TO KEEP HER REPRODUCTIVE SYSTEM HEALTHY

Medical science makes one fact very clear.

God never creates any human with born defects. His creation is always the perfect and the cause of every defect that occurs is due to man made mistakes.

Working on making a presentation for Million Death study made me learn some very important aspects which I feel is to be shared with everyone.

The second leading cause of death in India is SUICIDE.

India is ranked number one in Suicide rates.

And the cause of Suicide when it is analyzed, Financial problems matter just 16% and in case of remaining 84% it is WOMEN

The research clearly shows that the primary cause for Depression in wome which makes her saddist is -

The simulation and modification of Menstrual cycle among the women especially very high in South India and Rajasthan.

The reason for this modification is the existing Social Cultures in these regions of the Nation.

To understand it just let us Go through the Cultural History of India.

All religions in the world is against disturbance of Natural human cycles and anything you do should never disturb the natural cycle of human beings.

Thousand of years back, Every religion strength relied on numbers, and to make their community stronger they incorporated a beautiful theory.

Whether it is Indian Puranas, Khuran or Bible it says the same.

“Any Ovary Egg Produced in a women, should be fertilized. If any Egg comes out of the body and if it touches the ground, then it means there a severe crime is committed.

A Perfect Husband is the one who sees that all his Wife’s eggs that are produced are fertilized.

A Women on an average produces 375 Ovary Egg in her lifetime

If you want to avoid the Egg from touching the ground, then a women has to go in for approximately 16 to 20 Child births. That makes her avoid the egg from touching the ground. (The number is 16 because during every pregnancy there will be a stoppage of egg production for Sixteen Months)

Now what to do if accidentally a women egg touches the ground?

Then she will has to be isolated from the family. She is entangled in a curse till her bleedings stops and this led to the birth of a new tradition where in women are treated as untouchables and has to keep away from the society when they go through menstrual pregnancy,

I remember my days as a young child of Five to Six years. I virtually saw my Mom bleeding. She was crying in Pain and agony and I was just watching it helplessly. In the midnight, with no pad system used in those days, I saw how she was illtreated and scolded for bleed marks on floor.  I saw her agony, her helplessness and that stands in my mind even today.

I was not even allowed to go to my mother. I just wanted to be with her. But I was forcibly kept away from her and that pain and agony still sits in my mind and it will never be wiped out in my life.

Hence from my younger days, though I am considered as Adharmi I never encourage the tradition of isolating a mother from a child during periods time. There are many fights in my own house and I had been constantly told that by breaking this tradition I will give birth to a handicapped child. But today though in my entire life span I have purposefully broken this rule, I had three most healthy kids that too normal delivery with no complications and were absolutely born with not even jaundice.

I never allow my wife to follow this ritual. I only allow her to stay away from kitchen and the reason is simple. These days I know she needs rest and her reasoning and decision making powers will be at a very low during this period. A women with less reasoning power or low reflex should not try to indulge in works that requires care and caution,

Now coming to the point of how this fact is related to Suicide deaths is what I came to know by the recent data collected from Centre for Global Health Research.

Now when you follow this ritual, especially in orthodox families, they never want to see the women in the house going through period times when there is some auspicious occasion going on in their house. The solution though it sounds ridiculous they go in to take postponement tablets.

From my younger days I was very curious to know about what was the tablet, my sister, my mother use to consume whenever we had Ganesha festival, deepavali etc. I came to know about it only in the Nineth Standard.

Periods is a natural life cycle in every creature on this universe. Every mammal goes through the cycle of periods. A women produces egg for fertilization. The egg waits for around twelve days for fertilization and when the fertilization doesn’t happen then what should be done with the egg? God has created a wonderful mechanism in a women.

The Ovary egg stands in the uterus on a thin lining of its wall. This lining of wall is produced by a hormone in the women called Progesterone. In a normal cycle, exactly after around 300 Hours of Ovary egg creation, Human body stops producing this hormone called Progesterone and this weakens the ovary lining wall. It then gives up and the ovary ruptures along with wall and comes out.

Just like undigested food is pushed out of human body in a phased manner, this lining and the unfertilized egg is pushed out of the body and this is a process that takes around three to seven days. This process is what we call periods.

Now when our tradition says that women in periods should not participate in family events, they naturally wants to avoid periods and the result, change this cycle.

This has become such a common phase in Brahmin family that the highest money that a women spends on her medicine in our orthodox family is on postponement tablets. Without understanding its implications nor trying to know the dangers of disturbing the god made menstrual cycle, they blindly get Regestrone tablets. 

But what actually happens when you take these tablets?

These tablets actually contains the Progesterone harmone. When our body stops producing this hormone, the wall still remains intact for a few more days because of this artificially fed harmone.

Now the first risk that comes with these tablets are that the Medical institutions and Drug regulation board considers these tablets not as a medicine, but as a consumer product just like a condom.

Remember, I-pill, Condom and Postponement tablets all three comes under the same category of products. Hence the regulations imposted on its manufacturing by the drug control is very limited.

Hence companies produce it with lesser precautions. Research is carried out to make it more effective and with lesser logistics and never ever they think about its long time implications.

The highest reason for Death among cancers in India is breast cancer. Three out of four women will have a cancer growth which will later be naturally destroyed by the body. But this power of the body to destroy the cancer growth is totally lost with the use of these tablets. Hence if you have any symptoms of cancer growth in breast, then the cancer becomes immune.

Second greatest complication comes at the age of forty. It is when the menstrual cycle comes to an end.

Remember the two small DNA chromosomes that makes we the humans carry a code which exactly determines how much Progesterone your body should produce. This code once programmed during birth will never be altered.

But by consumption of repeated postponement tablets when the menstrual cycle comes to an end, then the production of Progesterone will not be stopped. This imbalance triggers so many internal reactions that leads to Astriophorasis and above all it disturbs our nervous system and triggers our brain with unwanted reactions.

Research clearly says that a husband will see a very violent change in her wife thinking and behavior when the menstrual cycle comes to an end. A women who always shows social concerns, who has stood as an optimist suddenly turns pessimist. She loses interest and enthusiasm in life.

This triggers Deppression. They feel the world is bad. They lose the passion in life. Above all the effect of non stoppage of Progesterone leads to saddist thinking.

Whenever someone comes and appreciates her husband, a women who always was proud of him, starts speaking that my husband is not what you think. Don’t appreciate him so much. Do you know he had done this, done that. The intention of her Is very clear. She wants to prove that he is not better than her,.

Such women when they see their son and their Daugher in law very happy and enjoying life, when they celebrate, they feel irritated. They does not want anyone to laugh loudly. When you are enjoying they say, Stop getting involved in this bhoga world. Do something for God.

Most of these women suddenly turn God saviors. A women for whom husband and children are everything they suddenly turn into a fantasy world .

They feel betrayed. They feel they were ill-treated. They always want to create a negative current.

The study clearly shows that the main reason in the behavioral change of women during menstrual stoppage is directly linked to the simulative changes she has undergone during periods.

Data analysis clearly shows that these kinds of changes in women happens more in orthodox families .

Shortly there will be a large scale campaigns that will be started to create awareness among women about disturbing once period cycles.

Also if we see it ethically, God the supreme has created a perfect human cycle, and when he has planned your period on a certain day, you say God, Hey you are wrong, I don’t want to have periods on this day. Saying you take man created unresearched some tablet, stop god’s process and then sit in front of god and then act as though you are his most obedient disciple.

You have broken his cycle and disturbed some five hundred processes in the body and then when you pray and ask him will he really listen to your prayers. It is a total hypocratic thought.

My wife was advised by one of the greatest spiritual leader that during periods, if you really want to be a part of a celebration, then lie and cheat the man made society, instead if you consume period tablets and cheat god, then your sin is much much greater.

My marriage date had fallen exactly on my wife period date. She called me and told I want to go in for postpone tablets. I told never ever play with natural cycles. She obeyed. I told her even if you fall into periods on the muhurtham platform I will still love and will never let you down. However xactly the next day evening of my marriage she fell into periods.

From that day till today she has never ever consumed these tablets. Remember if you believe in god, and if you think he is supreme then never ever alter any of his cycles or his creations for the sake of some benefits from man made rituals and ceremonies.

Periods is a ritual that was misused by men to kill the potential strength of women. If a women ejaculates ovum once in a month, a man ejaculates sperm every 48 hours. He still remains involved with society with no guilt or wrong doing feeling, then why should a women be projected as someone who has cursed when she ejaculates ovary.

A women during her period time needs rest and above all a very caring hand. A father should show extra love to her daughter and keep her engaged giving his precious time for her during her periods time. A husband should  understand the back aches and the pain she suffers in thighs due to ovary contraction during the first day of her period. It is the day she needs your love attention and your magical touch of care to make her overcome that pain.

A women will loose her reasoning power and it is very risky to drive vehicles or do any action that requires reflex during these period times. Avoid it. Foolish system we follow is we drop our wife everywhere during her healthy period and when she is in periods we ask her to take vehicle on her own as we are not supposed to touch her. It seems ridiculous .

However following of rituals is one’s personal belief and we should never hurt their belief. But the only care that needs to be taken is

WHENEVER YOU HAVE TO CHOOSE BETWEEN MAN MADE CELEBRATIONS AND GOD MADE PERIOD CYCLES. ALWAYS GIVE PREFERENCE TO GOD. STOP USING POSTPONEMENT TABLETS. IT WILL MAKE YOU A VERY BAD MOTHER FOR A  TEENAGE CHILD AND ABOVE ALL A HORRIBLE UNTOLERABLE MOTHER IN LAW

WHY FEMALE CHILD ARE LESS PREFERRED IN URBAN AND EDUCATED INDIA ?N CLASS ?

Aamir’s female infanticide episode has triggered a lot of discussion all over the globe and it Is in rumours that Aamir is planning another episode to highlight the counterview of why actually people avoid female child and why is this gender discrimination rampant. The shocking observation found is the reason for female infanticide is not actually the male gender but it is actually the female gender.

Whether it is America, Holland, Britain or any other developed country, there sex determination tests are common and the issue of choosing the right gender by the parents Is never an issue.

But In India why do parents fear to go in for a female child ?. Why do they have the tendency to go in for a male child ? I see in the most educated and the highest society, people perform poojas, upanyasa like harivamsha hoping to get only male child. Even when the elders give aashirvadham, it is always putra bhava and the aashirvadha putri bhava does not even exist. Whenever I speak in favour of having a female child, the simple question everyone asks me is

 “You already have five male kids and you saying I favour girl child is hypocracy. Just imagine if all your five kids had been female, then would you had been the same as you are today ?

For this just a few years back, my reply was a positive Yes. I would have loved to be with five female kids with no regrets. But today I feel I am blessed by God to have male children and the reason for this feeling is the attitude of majority of females in the society.

The reason for males developing hatred towards the female gender lies in the behaviour of today’s majority females. I have the experience of being very closely associated with more than five girls for whom I was like a father figure, a motivator, a advisor and above all the most trusted person.

Off the five girls only two stood by these feelings and even today adhere and respect me and always make me feel proud. They in fact make me feel that Girls are a blessing to this world.

While in the eyes of the other three, two are not in contact with  me as they are well settled now and I am not bothered as they still respect me in their hearts although they might not be in close touch with me. But in the case of one, i understood the real problem of why men hate the female gender.

Every father agrees that it is always very easy to handle a son rather than a daughter. The reason is male in most of the cases are clear and committed in their views and can be very easily understood by parents. But in the case of daughters it is impossible to know exactly what is that they want even to the most intelligent of the fathers in the world. I am not generalising. I know there are many many committed girls who are clear in their thoughts and actions.

In my sorrounding society of Brahmins  I am considered the most liberal  and by many as anachari as i think in a broader perspective rather than with the views of dharma and aacharas. Although in open many fear to support me by heart they are with me for the reason that I always give more importance to the jeeva that has life rather than jada like things idols, rituals, aacharas etc. My only view is when we do some action aachara, vratha or any dharma, if it is going to hurt any jeeva then we should never perform that action. follow any ritual but when it hurts someone then just ignore or avoid such things. This is my principle and this is the way I lead my life.

I was approached by a girl whose family were very orthodox. She expressed her pain, when she was treated as an untouchable during periods, during auspicious celebrations. She told she wanted to be like every other male who enjoy all benefits while all hardships are forced on females.

I then told her you need not worry. The only way to tackle this issue is that you be of some use to the society. If you are well educated, if you are beneficial to the society, If you build some skill set and if you are on your own legs then you could be the most respected. Later for guidance she asked me and was interested to take career in the field in which we are involved.

I gave a standing instruction in the house. I told everyone never ever create

any hindrance for her freedom. Whatever she wishes let us she enjoy and let us not feel just because she is female she is being made to suffer.

During menses period against our rituals she was allowed to be freely involved with my children. She told she wanted to get hair trimmed but my dharma does not allow it. I told don’t worry we will support. This way I supported her every move and told, trimming hair, waxing skin, wearing jeans are not the issues that bothers the society but what bothers is how do you interact and how actually you can be of use to the society in any situation.

I never had anything in my mind. I just kept supporting whatever she wanted. As a kid my only dream was that I should be in a position to fulfil every wish tomorrow my children will have for. Because my father had done it for me. He never bothered about society and through out he always saw what I wanted. That is the reason why even when one fine day I ran away from my final degree saying I hate this education system, he supported me and made me build my career in the way I really preferred it to be.

Same is the case with my children and I never want to force any of the five children in our family to live in fear of society. Let them do what they wish until it is not harmful to the other members of this society.

Same attitude I carried out on this girl saying you do what you wish and you be what you want ? I supported every motive. I told I will try to create more opportunities and it is your job to convert it into results.

Everything went on fine. For two years she stayed with my family, she was a part of my five children and actively took part in every activity of our family.

But trouble started right when they shifted to an area surrounded by what we call the most principled and aacharavantha families.

She was surrounded by fake people who use dharma as a mask to cover up their failures in their real life. When they are not able to perform well in academics, when they fail to get good post in job,, they want to get a virtual respect and want to feel they are the learned and for this the best tool they use is our dharma or religion.

Although we have the most learned scholars and many dedicated people who have dedicated their entire life to understand our culture and tradition, there numbers are negligible as majority of people in this society are the masked people.

These are the people who always tend to break relationships and try to create rift. I even heard in an upanyasa one person saying families were brothers, sisters and parents leave in co-ordination and love is of no use to our dharma as they are entangled in the moha .

Once the influence of these kinds of fake hypocrites started building on the girl she started to change. She was told that in menses period if you fail to follow rituals (regular rituals were followed and the only thing that was broken was using computers and hearing her voice as according to shastra we should not hear the voice of menses girl) then you will be blessed with a blind son. If you get your hair trimmed, then you would be sent to hell. These were the kinds of advice that the girl was constantly given.

After hearing this, the best thing the girl could have done was she could have just followed what they told if it was what she believed in. But here comes the attitude of today’s majority females.

She suddenly started blaming me that I was the reason for every small hindrance she had in her life. She told just because of me she is suffering as I allowed her to be free in my house and allowed her to be as she wished.

I just ignored and told if that was the case, then let us just forget it and I apologise. I told her if she feels it is bad then she can just stop coming to our kali or shani place.

This is a classic example of how liberal fathers of today are cheated by their daughters. There were days when fathers used to be strict and wanted their children to be strictly disciplined and follow rules.

But today to keep their daughters stress free fathers most of them give full support to every action their daughters perform. They say never to fear for anything and will stand by her daughter even when the mothers criticize fearing about what others say in the society.

But one fine day, the same daughter says to the father, Dad it was you who spoiled me, It was you who allowed me to be like this and now I am suffering. You are the reason for what I am today ?

This happens in most cases when the girl decides something, it just goes completely awry and then after failure it is the poor dad who will be attacked.

Then what does the parents feel ? what does the other members of family feel ? they feel it is dangerous to handle a girl and this leads to a human tendency to prefer males over females.

I agree that the same case happens even in the case of male children. But in case of male children they can be convinced and they will soon understand that it was for his good that his dad kept him free and allowed him to decide on his own. 

But in case of female children when you allow them to take decisions and when there decisions go wrong the first person to face the wrath is the poor dad who was just doing everything for her good.

In my case this was not just the end. When I told to stop if she really felt my house was a curse, she felt it hurt her ego. Then she started saying, I did everything because I am a flirt. I helped her only because she was a female. I did everything because I wanted to take scope in society with good girls. I used her to attract people attention. These were the kind of remarks that I finally received for having supported girl against what the dharma or aacharas says.

This led me into deep depression. I suffered a lot which only me and my wife knows. My wife stood by me through out this trauma. It led to me taking a wrong decision and that deteriotated my health further and today I have struck with an irrepairable damage. The only solution I am working out for that is to kill all the infected cells by burning nearing 1000 calories per day and this is the reason I run like a devil.

Now my elder son who understands my feeling says, dad this world should have been made only with males and females are a curse. I have to change his attitude. Luckily I have great examples for him like my sister daughter and others who I feel can impact his decision and make him feel that girls are a boon to the society.

It is now that I really feel great that God blessed me with three male kids rather than fulfilling my wish and gave five males in my family.

Tomorrow i will be a person who when I find out that my grand child in my daughter-in-law womb is female I may be happy but at some corner of my heart I always expect it to be a son.

This is the way that it is the attitude and the misuse of freedom given by their fathers that leads society to think thrice about going in for a female child. 

So in my opinion it is in the hands of today’s girls to prove whether the next generation men prefer male or female generations ahead. Neither the ban on sex determination, nor the strict laws can change the scenario, gender equality in numbers can only be achieved by the attitude of today’s existing girls.

For every girl or boy  please understand The greatest happiness a Man enjoys is when he feels that it is just because of him that someone in somepart of world is happy. Every father, every mentor, every coach wishes that he feels happy that someone life I have changed. The only return he expects is that the person for whom he dedicated his life is happy and successful.

But when the same person, due to some hard luck faces some down fall, they suddenly say it is because of you that I suffered. It is because of you and because I came to you I am broken. These words are the one that kills every dad in this society.

People think that when a boy falls in love with a girl and the girl ditches he becomed devdas and it’s the biggest pain. But what most girls doesn’t understand is that the pain a father suffers when his daughter says “I HATE YOU” is almost 100 times more painful than the lovers pain.

The result -  these elderly learned people understand girls are dangerous. They are sufferings. This damages the very reputation of older wise men on younger females and this is the real reason behind female discrimination during birth.

So in my opinion

STOPPING FEMALE INFANTICIDES LIES IN THE HANDS OF TODAY’S DAUGHTERS.

 WHEN YOUR DAD LETS YOU FREE AND GIVES YOU INDEPENDENCE STAND BY FOR WHAT YOU WERE COMMITTED IRRESPECTIVE OF WHAT OTHERS SAY THEN  YOUR DAD WILL ALWAYS WISH THAT THE CHILD HE WANTS FOR HIS SON SHOULD BE A FEMALE OR ELSE

HE WILL SURELY PERFORM HARIWAMSHA AND ALL KINDS OF VRATHAS TO HAVE A MALE GRAND CHILD

One day a small little girl with a mobile in her hand came running near Buddha and started crying.

BUDDHA : My Dear Girl Why are you crying ?

GIRL : Guruji i have lost everything in my life. They say you are divine. can you give back the thing that i have lost in my life

BUDDHA : What is that you have lost ?

GIRL : I have lost everything. I have lost the dignity, the respect to live. I am left with only two options. either you have to get me back my lost dignity or i have to die.

BUDDHA : Dont worry girl. Tell me what is your Problem ?

GIRL : Swamy i am a little innocent girl from a small town in Karnataka called Savadi. My father name is Laxman Savadi. He is a Minister in Karnataka Government. As his daughter I enjoyed a very good and respected life. But suddenly one day on Television they showed my dad viewing some dirty clip which they call porn clip on the Phone. After this my life turned into a hell. All our neigbours turn towards us and make fun of us. If we switch on TV we see the same ugly clip again and again. If I go to school my friends run away from me saying we are characterless. My loving dad's picture is burnt. People are abusing him. I have only Dad. I love him very much. Now how can i live with that disrespect ? When I walk on streets the boys rag me saying come we will make a porn clip of you. I am totally broken swamy. Please get back my dead dignity. Get back my dad's love. Get back my family. Please ( The girl starts crying)

BUDDHA : Dont worry my little girl. I will get back your lost dignity and your lost faith. But before that you have to get me something to give life to your dignity and respect .

GIRL : Ok tell me swamy i will get you whatever you want.

BUDDHa (Giving a bowl) My dear girl. I only want a bowl of rice. But there is only one condition. You have to get that bowl of rice from a human who is above 18 years.

GIRL : Ok swamy i will get it at once.

BUDDHA : Wait. the only condition is that man or women who gives you the rice should have never watched a porn film in thier life. or imagined a women in their thoughts with sexual desires.

GIRL : Ok swamy i will surely get it

The girl leaves and starts to go to every house asking for a bowl or rice. To her surprise when she puts the condition of not to be have watched or not have imagined a women for sexual desires everyone moves back. Even the temple priests, Church fathers, Maszid Mullahs everyone refuse to give the rice. Finally someone tells her to go near the bachelor and the most principled man Atal Bihari Vajpayee and ask for the Rice. The girl goes to him

GIRL : Atalji Atalji. My father is your party member. Without his knowledge he has committed a henious crime of watching a porn in assembly

ATALJI : Yes i know girl. He has created a blunder. He has spoiled the name of a great party. He is a shame to our nation.

GIRL : Atalji I ask sorry on behalf of my father. Kindly do me one small favour get me a bowl of rice from your hand as you have never watched porn or never imagined any girl

ATALJI : (hezitating) Sorry girl I have to confess. After the 1980 debacle where our first non congress government fell, I got depressed and in that depression i had got the first color TV of that time and watched a few in depression. So i cant. But I have one suggestion. You can go to one man whom I can guarantee has never watched porn

GIRL : Ok sir, tell me who is that Man ?

ATALJI : It is the Great Great Man. Dr. A.P.J. ABDUL KALAM

GIRL : Oh thank you very much sir. I will immediately rush to him. Thank you.

Girl then goes to Dr. A.P.J. ABDUL KALAM and as she enters she sees Abdul Kalam watching the same Ministers porn watching clips on TV with some measurements he is taking. Girl comes near him

GIRL : Sir, What are you doing here with the tape and the clip ?

KALAM : Oh my dear girl. See I am just enjoying today as the technology that we use in space is now available to every common man.

GIRL : What is it sir ?

KALAM : See here my dear child, Satellite cameras that I designed to place has the capability of taking earth's picture to the resolution level of one inch. Now here you see the technology used in the camera. From the gallery in a small camera, People are able to watch clearly the clipping in a small mobile of 3 inch size. Great Great I really appreciate this technological advancement in India.

GIRL : Oh Ok Sir. When the whole world is watching this clip in shame, I really appreciate your scientific thinking. Sir, I am sorry to say that I am the daughter of that man who is watching that clip.

KALAM : Oh is it so. Very happy to meet you young girl what are your future dreams ?

GIRL : Sir. Are you not feeling embrassed to talk to me a daughter of such a tainted minister. ?

KALAM : Why should I be. My dear Girl you are an individual . Whatever mistake your father might have done it is his personal thing and you cannot see all his kits and kins from the same angle. Go ahead girl what do you want ?

GIRL : Oh you are really great sir. Nothing sir. I have been Asked by the great saint BUDDHA to get a bowl of rice from a person who has never watched a porn or never imagined a girl for sexual desire. I am sure it is only you who is so in this nation. So please give me a bowl of rice from your own hand sir.

KALAM : Oh is it so no problem come girl take i will give it right now (Tries to go inside meanwhile his close friend who is associated with kalam and his chaddi dost Ramanarayan K stops him and says)

RAMNARAYAN : Sir sorry you cannot give the rice sir.

KALAM : Why Mr. Kutty

RAMNARAYAN : Sir I think you have forgotten our old days in Rameshwaram. Do you remember the first day you got the idea of designing a Super fast Rocket.

KALAM : Yes Yes RAMNARAYAN. I remember that day. All my High school friends of class X had planned to take me to a theater where an exclusive film was being shown. They told it is very special. We cannot see it outside and the Tent man had charged ten rupees in those days to show us that film. Yes I remember only after watching that film I understood the best shape a body can take to move with great accelleration. That led me to design the shape of a rocket. Yes I do remember.

RAMNARAYAN : Sir the idea of that design was triggered in your brain when you watching a particular human part in a film sir

KALAM : Oh is it I dont remember. But i really loved that rocket shape

RAMNARAYAN : Sir that is what we call Porn film sir. Sorry sir without your knowledege you have watched a porn on that day you cannot give the rice sir.

KALAM : Oh my God, Is it ? My ideas were triggered from a porn film. Oh I am not worried. I only need dreams and ideas and i am not bothered about from where it comes. (Turning to Girl) Sorry my child I cannot now give you the bowl of rice

GIRL : Oh what a tragedy ? When kalam himself cannot confidently say I have not watched porn then who else in this nation can be that Person Oh I failed

In this way the girl comes backe to BUDDHA crying.

GIRL : Swamiji Swamiji I am extremely sorry. In the whole nation I could not find any human above 18 years who has not watched a porn. I am now totally helpless tell me what can I do ?

BUDDHA : Did you see my little girl. When you felt that just because your father watched a porn he is a characterless or unethical person then what about the rest ? Could you find anyone who has never watched a porn. Remember my dear girl. Even the Cameraman who has recorded that clip is a very regular porn watcher. Or else he would have not got the idea that it is a porn from such a long distance. The world is a hypocrite world my dear girl. We all do the same mistake when we are alone. But when we see it in public we show that we are saints by criticizing such acts. Remember my dear girl. Never ever judge a man by what he eats, what he sees or what he hears ? Judge a man by what he does ? Do you feel that your father loves you very much ? Do you feel that he is the greatest dad ? then dont fear to this ugly world. Keep this feeling intact. Your father is already repenting and he will surely do his level best to get your lost pride. Have trust in God my Child. A God never gives a bad mother or a bad father. A Man may be a Devil to the world but he will always be a loving father to a daughter or a son. So if you feel he is good then just follow your heart. Go my Dear child Go ? The mistake is done by your father and not by you. So just boldly go ahead in your life. Live your life with full confidence. Show the world what you are ?

The Girl then being motivated by Buddha leaves Buddha with a smile on her face

All Iz Well - Three words to define life

Two years back when i was in a dilemma to get my third child removed, one man changed our decision and saved a life. Today being depressed and dejected at the gossips created on me, when i was just tumbling down, the same man lifted me back and made me happily enjoy life by saying just three words " All iz well" This one man i adore greatly in my life is Aamir Khan.

I had dreamt of making my christmas delightful by viewing a master piece of camaroon called Avatar. I went to book ticket but unfortunately i got ticket only for 28th december. i just kept quite and was trying to wrap up myself from the depressions i had suffered a few months back. its detailsl are already present in my previous blog. Suddenly a miracle happened on 25th december 2009.

One of the friend who come to learn editing at our place had come on 25th december to practice and in between discussions she suddenly told that she carries four tickets of 3 idiots and their family members are not coming. When she asked us to accompany her i immediately told ok. After an hour's discussion the three members that are going to watch this movie in our 11 member family were chosen and it was me, my wife and my second son along with the third who needs no ticket. Deciding this factor I somehow managed my elder son to stay back by offering a bribe of one leather ball. Later we three along with our friend rushed to Fun cinemas. after an hour of roaming around in the complex we went and sat into the theatre at 8-30. immediately we were taken into a totally new world.

3 idiots was not just an entertainer. It was really an eye opener. I was sitting with my son who is 8 years old and there was a scene were all the boys zipped out their pants showed their asses and even their underwear was removed and stamped. My son was so thrilled that even now when someone comes he zipps out his pants and shakes his ass. Normally this may be felt as a vulgar act but once you watch this in Rajkumar Hirani film you never feel that it is vulgar but it is a kind of respect or gesture you show it to your closest friend.

Then comes a scene where there is a speech in which all the words chamatkaar or spelled as balatkaar and staan is spelled as stan meaning booms in hindi. Though it uses the most vulgar language i was able to laugh at it whole heartedly with a girl, my son and with my wife. We never ever felt that it is vulgar. My son keeps telling the word balatkaar and stan and still we does not get embrassed but actually enjoy it.

This is the power of the director of this film. His actions in the films are so spontaneous that you are never embrassed or feel any vulgarity.

My wife wanted to go to art of living. She was telling me let us attend a few classes there to come out of the dilemma we faced about a few months back. But i can tell there is no better motivational programme than 3 idiots. The messages are onliners coming out from the mouth of a great actor but it creates an everlasting impression in your heart.

Actually while going to the fourth floor of the sigma mall, in escalator suddenly my one year son climbed it and in the urgency to catch him , my leg had a deep cut and i was bleeding when i reached the theatre complex. But after i entered into the theatre as the movie started i forgot totally that i had a wound. I think for doctors to conduct an operation, they need not administer anasthesia, they can just ask patients to watch this film and carry out any operation, and i swear the patient will never experience any pain.

My son use to always ask me how he was born, He use to question me how a child is born. again i could explain it very clearly without any embrassment with this film. in the first scene you have thousands of sperms attacking an oval and i could explain it to my son. then you have a complete well shot child delivery in climax and now my son loves the vacuum cleaner in our house and says he came out to the earth by a vacuum cleaner.

I have the experience of catching the newly born baby for the first time as i was the one who first took my brother son anantha into the arms when he was born. When i saw aamir khan hold the newly born in his child, his hands were shaking and i could experience the kind of great feeling that it creates along with a sense of fear and that one expression of aamir clearly shows how perfectionist he is in his act.

The tag line of the film. ALL iz well, and the song , jab life mein koi problem, hotonko karo gol seeti bajao aur bolo all iz well, a message that is given by every motivator and personality development programmes is so effectively shown in this film that hearing this five minutes song, you have such a beautiful message reaching your heart.

Watching this film i was totally transformed. after watching the film i drove all the way beyond HAL to drop the girl, and then during the one hour long ride, i saw how much transform it brought in my wife. She agreed on most of my points and told me that she will always adhere to the principle of All iz well in life.

Really again one more film has influenced my life. It has brought a new zeal in me and more than that it has made me and my wife and my family more bonded than ever. my full family will again watch this movie after watching avatar.

Thank you Rajkumar Hirani, Thank you Aamir, i dont know how many people have liked your movie or not but by my heart i say that 3 idiots has really made an impact on my life and has sharpened my vision about my life. View the film by heart and i bet it will really make a difference in every man's life.

Sweet Journey from Windows 3.1 to Windows 7

Now i am updating all my system OS to Windows 7. As i was updating my systems i recalled my journey on computer starting from the first Windows 3.1 to Windows 7. It was really a very sweet memory to remember.

I made my debut to the industry of computer in the year 1993. At that time DOS was just replaced with Windows 3.1 When i made my debut it was Windows 3.1 32 Bit. Actually the first Computer i purchased paying 1.5 lakhs was a new 32 bit system. The program Manager where we stored all the shortcuts to application was the main user interface we had at that time. For Networking There was Windows NT which at that time was abbreviated as Windows Never Trust.

As my applications were more related to Graphics and Multimedia, then we made a shift from Windows to MAC. When i first purchased my MAC I was 24 years old. I was a Photographer and Videographer. My main business was to take videos of wedding and birthday parties. After shooting i wanted those videos to be edited and for that application i thought of using a computer.

I still remember the way i used to install my softwares at that time. It was on a mere 1.4 Mb Floppy. I had to use atleast 12 to 14 floppies to install one software. I used to get a box of Floppies for Rupees 300 meaning to store 14 Mb of data i used to spend Rupees 300-00. My machine had a 1.2 Gb hard disk and i purchased a 8GB Seagate Baracuda SCSI paying Rs. 8,800-00. when i had 8GB storage everybody use to envy me for the huge storage i had got.

I can relate my experience with MAC and Windows 3.1 to my teenage days. I had lot of spirit and enthusiasm. I was ready to do anything to come up in life. Like the floppies and Hard disks i had too little opportunities and still i kept trying with great vigor and spirit.

Later came Windows 95. It was a revolution at that time. when i first installed windows 95 and got to see the start menu at the bottom for the first time in life it thrilled us. Windows 95 made me switch back from MAC to Windows.

I can relate my experience with Windows 95 to my start of new life. Just like Windows 95 changed the face of computing world, the same period also changed the face of my world. It was this period that i got married. in 1997 when i was thriving to use Windows 95 and was just giving a try to the super flop OS windows 97 i got married.

My son was born to bring stability in my life and similarly windows 98 was launched to bring stability in windows. It was this time that i started using Internet. I had gone to the VSNL office in Millers Road and i remember i stood in a queue for one hour, paid 2,500 rupees and got 100 hour internet usage package. I was really thrilled. My phone use to cost me Rs. 1-20 for every 3 minutes of internet usage and i use to get telephone bill alone around Rupees 2,500-00 at that time per month.

As my son grew and i started enjoying family responsibilities i had windows 2000 out in the market. It was again one of the most stable system. I had both Windows 2000 and Windows 2000 server and during this period i enjoyed the experience of networking. I created domain and had around 8 computers running on my domain. I made a debut to software development at that time for a very short span using visual studio 6.

My second son was born and my business changed from wedding and video to Multimedia graphics and internet applications. I started handling corporate clients and i think Windows 2000 was one OS which i used for the longest duration in my life ie for about 4 years.

Later with Windows XP i started experiencing life with a new meaning. Like Windows XP i also became youthful and colourful. However my life suffered a severe crash in the year 2000 and then recovered with a fully newly formated system. i started the new system with windows 2000 and later switched on to XP and it was really a very colourful period in my life.

Then came Windows Vista. It made me a real professional and now i got the confidence to take up any job and was at my peak during this period. Next to Windows 2000 the OS that i used for the maximum period was vista. thought i had minor hiccups vista kept me going and my systems were most stable during this period.

Now again in the year 2009 My life system crashced severely. every data enthusiasm and spirit was lost with it. Later when i decided to move towards the path of recovery i am starting it with Windows 7.

Transition from vista to Windows 7 was the most easiest transition among the OS and i also hope that my life system transmission will also be the same. Windows 7 is the first windows OS that is getting released without its founder boss bill gates. Somewhat i find it to be more stable and more compatible to my applications. I only hope that the new life system that i am adopting with this OS is also equally compatible and stable.

With every version my life phase has changed. Everytime i equate my life line with Windows versions and also with Adobe Photoshop versions. As these versions keep changing and as it keeps improving i wish to see same kind of improvements in me. It also helps me to fight saturation in work.

Now with Windows 7 and Photoshop CS4 version i have a new spirit which is just glowing out very slowly. Like the two version has a very good support as it is packaged with numerous add-ons my life is also supported well mainly with my wife my brother and my parents. I hope that before the next crash i will have to raise above the expectations of my sweet children.

Experience of being a Wictim of Gossiping

Man is a social animal. He loves to interact with people and make new friends. There are only about 1% of people in this world who are like columbus. They enjoy exploring non living things like New Lands. The other category of other 4% of people who enjoy exploring New things and we call them scientists. There explorations helps the entire mankind.

There are another around 2% people who explore living creatures and we call them biologist, botonist doctors etc. Again they are meant to serve the mankind

Bur the remaining 93% people in this universe love to explore Humans and their emotions. Everyone wants to know something new about the other. The greatest psychology observed here is that all humans wish to hear more about people who are doing bad rather than the people who are doing good. When an appreciated job is done people speak about them and appreciate for about 10% time and in the remaining 90% they love to discuss about the person or people who have done bad. The reason behind this is when we are speaking about a good deed of a person he appears to be better than us and that hurts our ego at some point. However when we speak about something which involves some bad deeds of a person that makes us feel that we are better than him. This factor makes us happy. And to keep us happy we discuss more and more about the bad deeds.

The point here is, when we start a discussion about a person who appears to be taking some steps or in the process of taking some step, we first start it at a lower tone. But once we feel happy that we are better than him, we tend to multiply that happiness level by simply imagining things that he might do in the process of that step. These imaginations over a period of time looses its control and he might do, he might do he might do, slowly gets exaggerated as He did , He did, He did and this is what we term as gossiping.

Film actors and actresses are paid heftily and are provided the best facilities by this society and the purpose they have to serve the society is that they should provide the society enough stuff for them to gossip, enjoy and feel happy. Most magazines, media earn their TRPs just by gossiping and it is a part and parcel of life.

However when the same gossiping transfers from the society of film actors and actresses to our own living society it starts creating huge disasters. While talking about a person we never intend to understand that the 0.1% of happiness we earn by gossiping about that person will actually be harming that particular person 99.9%. To get a 0.1% pleasure we destroy 99.9% of reputation or happiness of the other person. This alarming proportion of loss clearly shows us that Gossping is a very very bad part of human society.

I was a great victim of human gossiping. I sincerely agree that i am also a part of gossipers and in the event of discussions with people i have gossiped a lot about others. I never felt anything harmful in that until i myself fell the victim of Gossiping.

My entire thinking, My transparency in my deeds, my confidence level about myself, my relationship with my wife everything went haywire for a few days and it took a very very long time to regain all those things. I would have encountered a greater pain and sufferings if our family was a small family. But fortunately i have a big family, My parents, my brother and especially the five children and my sweet sister and their full family helped me come out of this great pain faster.

The subject of Gossiping also plays a major role. Even before there were many gossips about us. We took it as a joke and enjoyed it with others. It was just a good time pass. But the gossiping which involves a relationship with a women provides the maximum level of satisfaction and happiness for the gossipers and the highest level of damage to the victim. This kind of gossiping was the factor which affected me severely.

It all started with the matter which I had discussed in my previous blog dating a daughter. Accidentally in my life I had someone who entered my life through orkut. For me she was just a friend like the other 130 and odd i have in my orkut account. Whenever in social network site if someone scraps me i reply back. Similarly in sms if someone sms me i reply back. All conversations starts from me in this manner and i myself never force to converse with anyone until there is absolute necessity, On a birthday, on some achievement i myself scrap or ping them. Or otherwise i keep acting like a reactor to people around me.

The process of my reaction to a call from a girl on orkut, went on to the level of developing a very strong bond with her. When someone says positive things we appreciate their achievements and forget it. But when someone says negative things like i am in trouble, I am feeling useless, my confidence level is low, etc, immediately as a human our first thought will be can I be of some use to them. This thought will splash up 500% faster if the person asking it is from the opposite sex. The same way my thought popped up and since she was from my field i asked her to work on some of our projects.

She slowly showed lot of interest in my animations and graphic jobs and told she would come and work in our place. My entire family agreed and as an employee she started learning as well as working on our ongoing projects. Only thing was since she was alone here in a PG we use to take her to all our family functions and kept her in contact with all our relations.

I really appreciate my sathvick family members ie my father brother sisters, and also my mother family members of sosale who sincerely accepted her and treated her with right respect. But the problem started with my wife side relations. I had the greatest respect and affection towards their entire family. They also behaved in front of me to be very affectionate towards me. So as usual with a good gesture i introduced this girl to them just like they know the others who work with me.

Later the turn of events really shocked me. I felt like that the entire earth below my feet blew open. First i saw small changes in their behaviours. In front of me they remained very affectionate but in my absence my wife started receiving phone calls. They called her and started asking where that girl is staying, how much time she will stay here, at the time of work where i will sit and where the girl sits, and the frequency of these enquiries gradually kept increasing.

Later I became the topic of discussion among all there family discussion matters. Whenever they gathered they use to gather they started enjoying this subject. This gossiping slowly started entertaining them. Actually from my wife side, two of her sister children were very close to me and always use to come and go to my house. They caught hold of them and started asking what is my behaviour with that girl. At the beginning they told about my real intentions and when the level of pressure to break open any one reason for them to doubt, they in a funny gesture told something and that was the thing they were waiting for. When I went to my wife sister house I was suddenly attacked in a gesture like I am having an affair. I was shocked. I was broken.

Actually the amount of risk here involved was very high for that girl. She was innocent. She had come with a trust to make a career. I felt this gossiping will result in huge disaster. I had taken her on a project which was for a duration of two months. But without thinking a moment i asked her to leave back to her place immediately to be frank this sudden decision made me change the entire contract I had signed with a company. It was going to cost me atleast 300 dollars to make a new bid and retake the project in an another name. Even then i decided to forbid this loss and sent that girl away from my life for ever.

Actually I always feel a lot of pain when I have someone who enter my life goes away for ever. I always want to maintain an everlasting relationships with people and not a stop gap time pass relationships. But here i failed. This failure will have an everlasting impact on my life. I really felt like I had a daughter of age 22 who suddenly died in some accident. My values, My respect to relationships everything got totally shaken. I was totally broken and fell totally down.

But I have an angel by my side and that is my wife Pankaja. She understood my feelings. She made an attempt to get back that girl and send her back in a good gesture so that the relationship in their family heart remains for ever. Her efforts turned into vain and in turn she got humiliated by the family members of that girl. They took Pankaja left and right and Pankaja had to bear such a big humiliation quitely.

So we both suffered. When I suffer, I will not be happy, When I am not happy, My brother cannot be happy, He has to hide it. When we both are not happy my parents turn worried. Children loose the good loving environment in which they are supposed to grow. A family of 11 members had their happy feelings hidden and buried for a few weeks.

However I have a great father. My sister and her husband, and above all i reside in an area which knows and respects my family so much. They all allowed us to bounce back and today we are back to normal and are having back our lost glory.

I always remember another one unknown person who first came as a trouble maker and later left making a long lasting impact. That person was Prashanth Mathole. When this girl came he sent mails. I first thought he is a trouble maker. But he was someone sent by god who warned about situations that may lead if I give more importance to that girl than my family. Actually at one point I thought of having that girl in my project and in my life as my god sent daughter through out my life. A thought came, when I am good by my heart, when I have not done any mistake, why should I fear the gossip makers. But Prashanth Mathole had warned me about the implications it will have when the gossips started by my wife side relatives reaches the girl side relatives. What if such gossips reaches the families of alliances for which the parents of that girl are trying for. Then instead of helping that girl i would totally ruin that girl career. So I decided to give up this girl forever from my life. For this one reason I sincerely thank this unknown person Prashanth Mathole

At the end everything ended with a good deed. Who ever reads this blog I want to make them clear that let them think a thousand time before they gossip about human relationships. It might be a five minute entertainment for them but it will create an unrepairable impact on the people on whom they are gossiping.

Jaanu Ajji - A Great Soul Lost Forever

11th July 2009 Night 11-30 PM. A Phone call brought an end to a four year suffering. It said that after suffering for about 4 - 5 years by bed souring, My Grand Mother ie My Mother's mother Janaki alias Jaanu had expired. The news of death brought smiles on all the members of our family as it gave a much longed relief both to the ailing Jaanu and also for the family that was looking after her. Death was welcomed with a smile.

Next day Morning Myself with my brother and parents rushed to Mysore. The complete Sosale famly to which my mother belonged assembled before 10 AM. From 11 AM the ceremony started and by Three it ended with setting fire to the pyre of my grand mother. Greatly relieved we all walked back home had a bath, and then our lunch.

Through out the ceremony, we cracked jokes, spoke openly and had a great time. There were more smiles on people faces than the tears. The reason was the suffering my Grand mother had undergone. A severe trauma from five years. she had been physically dead long before with just hart beat functioning. After a long suffering she had finally seen the Moksha and this had converted her death into a kind of happy moment for the entire family

Later after finishing the ceremony we left from Mysore back to Bangalore in the 5 PM Bus. During the travel time, i just recalled my association with great soul Jaanamma.

Janaki Bai was the fourth daughter to their parents out of the seven. She was the most beautiful in their whole family. She was the most charming girl of the entire T-Narsipur Town where she was born.

Most women agree with one fact that being too beautiful is not a boon but actually a curse. It creates a fear in the minds of parents when other appreciate their daughter, It increases possesiveness of the husband towards the wife and all these creates a huge mental torture in the minds of an orthodox good looking girl. My grand mother has suffered from it. The treasure of too much beauty was taken up as a huge burden by their parents and they wanted to get rid of it as soon as possible.

So in a sense of urgency, she was given to My Grand Father Venkatanarasimhachar, A powerful member of Sosale Vyasaraja Mutt at that time. My Grand Mother was his second wife (Some say it was third). After marriage, beauty turned my grand mother into a beast. She had six children. The first four were girls. As it is in our Orthodox Shastra a man does not get entry into heaven until he has a son. This forced my grand mother to go through six deliveries. After four girls two male children were born.

It was a sigh of relief for my grand mother. She thought at last she had fulfilled her husband wish to go to heaven. But unfortunately it happened very early. Still the children were kids, and my Grand father passed away leaving six children in the hands of a women whose life had thought her nothing except delivering a child.

The days of suffering started for my grand mother. With six children that too four girls in hand she went to the door steps of every relation. My Grand father believed that If we do good to God he will take care of us. With that intention he wrote all his property to the name of Sosale Vyasaraja mutt. The mutt people very cleverly wooed him and my grand father always thought about how he can achieve moksha and never thought about how his children can live in this world. This brought the entire family to the streets and from this my grand father might have gone to moksha in the eternal world.

With the help from her mother side, and from her brothers My grand mother managed to bring up the six kids. With great difficulty she completed the wedding of her first Daughter, Saraswathi. Luckily their husband could understand the difficulty of my grand mother and he helped in bringing up the other kids. He took initiative in getting the second daughter my mother married to my father.

However good the first son-in-law may be there was a kind of guilt in my grand mother's mind. She felt she had become a burden to everyone in this world. It is said that some even wanted her to enter into sati after her husband died, but due to her brothers bold steps she survived to look after the six kids.

By nature and Circumstances made my grand mother seee the world as a pessimist. she saw only problems in every solution. She always try to find the fault in people rather than the good deeds they were doing. This created huge problems in her life. She lost support of family members at the key points of her life. In fact as a kid, i did not attend my mother's brother marriage because of rift in my grand mother and my father. The main reason behind this rift was the pessimistic attitude of my grand mother.

However she successfully got all her four daughters married to four good families. Even his son got a good job and he was married. Luckily her son Mr. Gopinath got an angel as his wife. His wife treated my Grand mother virtually as her mother. Through out my grand mother life the person who supported her for maximum period was this great lady. In her last days, when she was bed souring, it was this lady who took care of my grand mother like a small child. She wiped all her wastes like a mother does for a small child. She never grumbled and till death she stood by the side of my grand mother.

When it comes to my relatiosnhip with my grand mother it started with my birth. When I was born, My mother's complete post pregnancy care was taken care by my grand mother. The first person in this world who washed me was my grand mother. She use to give me a very caring and loving bath when i was just a few days kid.

Actually my nose was flat. So they say my grand mother everyday before bath, patiently sat for about an hour and massaged my nose and body. Today everyone says the only best part on my face is nose and the credit for this should go to this grand mother.

In my younger days i was very adamant. Whenever i was not obeying my father, i use to get proper beatings and when everyone in the house were pointing fingers at me and were scolding, one soul is to bring its hand over my head and use to say, dont worry i am with you. This soul was my Grand mother. She always loved me, To be very frank when I reached the teenage, she brought my first girl into my life. She was responsible for that girl like me and motivate me in life. She had boosted me so much in front of that girl that she always thought that i was the best person in this universe. I got a good Girl friend because of my grand mother. Even she wanted me to be married to another girl. She always use to say you are the right husband for her. By this way even in my youthful days she helped build my dreams and my love life.

She was highly practical. She believed that in this world no one does anything without any return expectations. Sometimes she used to wrongly judge the returns people would expect when someone came to help her. By this attitude she was criticized by many. But life had made her think life as give and take policy.

Through out the journey i remembered this great soul. She had lived for 102 Years. Her past five six years were miserable. But she had led a life of 90 years dedicated to the service of her children and grand children. But we forgot those 90 years and remembered just the last 6 - 7 years and always felt she is a burden to everyone. I myself had spoken with that attitude. That makes me feel how mutlabi we are in this world. I really feel greatly bad when i feel that for a women who gave my first bath, who gave my first kiss, who gave me my first love, I in return gave nothing but just a homage in front of her body after she passed away. Well I now understand that the punishment to this attitude will be mooted to me after around 30 - 40 years and at that time i should remember and take up life as a reality fact that is the exact replica of what I had done a few decades ago.